That's when I remind myself that the tiniest action today will always beat the fantasy of perfection tomorrow. All-or-nothing thinking used to be the bane of my existence, but now when I get a flare-up, I use it as a reminder of how far I've come.

Decision paralysis rarely looks dramatic. It shows up as overthinking, second-guessing and that familiar urge to make any choice just to make the discomfort stop. When that happens, transformation coach Jessica Boston and author of Homecoming Meditations suggests pressing pause - for just 60 seconds. Her technique is a short visualisation designed to pull you out of urgency and into perspective. "Picture a future version of yourself and ask them, 'What choice will make our life lighter?' Not better or worse, but lighter," she says. After a long nasal exhale, the next question is, 'Will this choice reinforce the trust I have in myself, or will it derail this relationship?'