The PLEASER
The inner alarm is wired to keep the “peace”
Like a home alarm that goes off at the faintest disturbance, your system reacts to the smallest hint of conflict or disapproval. To silence it, you shrink yourself, you say yes when you mean no, you smooth the edges so no one else feels discomfort and then you find yourself exhausted trying to make shortcuts to make up your energy.
The cost is high, exhaustion, resentment, burnout and the frustration of not knowing where you end and others begin. This is not who you are, it is a pattern your subconscious learned in childhood to keep you safe.
The good news is that, like any alarm system, it can be reset…
Does this sound like you?
Constantly drained from giving more than you have
Saying yes out of guilt, not genuine choice
Feeling like your identity has blurred in the service of others
Longing for freedom but unsure how to step into it
If you see yourself here, you are not weak but you are running an alarm that has become over-sensitive.
The Pleaser’s Path to Freedom
In this short video, I explore The Pleaser, an archetype driven by an inner alarm that mistakes conflict for danger and drives you to put everyone else first.
With 15 years of experience in subconscious transformation and trauma-informed hypnosis, I will show you how this pattern forms, why it drains your energy and joy, and how to reset it.
You will discover:
Why people-pleasing is not true kindness but a survival response that drains your energy
Practical ways to set boundaries without guilt and reconnect with your own voice
How the three-stage Homecoming Method™ rebuilds self-trust, strengthens boundaries, and creates the emotional safety you need to choose yourself
Resetting the Alarm with Homecoming
Homecoming is my one-to-one programme designed to help you reclaim the foundations you thought were lost.
Over 90 days, we retrain your subconscious to stop equating conflict with danger. You learn how to say no without guilt, how to put yourself first without fear, and how to create relationships rooted in balance and truth.
By the end, you will have:
Energy and clarity to live life on your own terms
Tools to dissolve guilt and hold boundaries with confidence
A renewed relationship with yourself, built on trust and belonging
The freedom to choose yourself and let joy take up space
You do not need to keep silencing yourself to silence the alarm. The peace you are looking for is already within you, waiting to be heard.
If you are ready to reclaim your calm, your power, this is where it begins. You do not need to become someone new. You only need to remember who you were before the pleasing took over.
Book your free discovery call today and take the first step toward breaking this cycle for good. A future that feels lighter, freer, and truly your own is waiting.
“I make real decisions, I feel braver and bolder creatively. Working with Jessica has helped me so much more than any other therapy has. Every day something new clicks. I am able to come back quicker from those low moments; I am learning to trust myself more and more each day.”